The Ultimate List?

My mother says you know it's the right person when you feel stronger with that person, when they lift you up and you lift them up in a way that isn't possible without them. My boss wrote a list of must and must nots put it in a drawer and found it years later only to see that her husband had all but two qualities on that list. Love in a feeling hard to define or explain. Qualities, however, can be pinpointed. And they can help clarify muddy situations and confusing feelings regarding the inexplicable "love". She said I should make a list. She said it helps to focus wants and needs to have things written out, and then sent out into the open. So I did. It's not complete because it's late and i'm tired, but it's a good starting point. *deep breath* here i go...

MUST:
- be completely honest with me at all times, even if i don't want to hear it or it's scary for him/me
- be mature, intelligent and respectful
- be kind to people/have a genuine love of people
- be sympathetic and helpful to others
- have an open mind and accepting nature
- "have his shit together"
- have an appreciation of movies and music
- be able to have long talks with me into the wee hours of the night
- like random, unique, fun moments-- like dancing in the rain or taking meals to go to eat outside in the sun, even if it means sitting on the hood of the car because a park isn't around
- make me laugh
- love kids--not that he wants to have them himself, but still likes them
- be a nerd
- give me butterflies
- lovingly stroke my hair or brush it off it my face from time to time
- get my pop culture references
- have great social ability and tact
- get along with my friends and family
- have confidence in himself and his abilities/have a healthy level of self esteem
- teach me things, open my eyes to new things
- hold me tight when we sleep
- accept me and all my flaws, but also motivate me to be a better person by not being afraid to keep me in check when i need it
- allow me my independence
- be okay with my having a lot of close male friends
- trust me completely (I will never give him a reason not to)
- be a good kisser
- see and appreciate the beauty in life
- appreciate the little things
- find my quirks endearing, even if i'm annoyed with them in myself
- love me
- give me a sense of peace, belonging and comfort when i'm with him
- have that spark with me-- that unexplainable connection that bonds us

MUST NOT:
- be overly possessive, jealous or controlling
- abuse substances- have meanness in him
- settle for less than he is capable of accomplishing
- evade issues and feelings
- make me feel cheap, unwanted, taken for granted or used
- be overly cynical and/or pessimistic
- be wreckless with my heart

I wonder who wouldn't want this stuff? I mean, if everyone wrote a list... how similar would they all look?